But What Do I Know, Anyway?

Just a couple of things I've learned and am still learning about having a meaningful relationship. This is mostly just for me, but maybe someone else will get something out of it, too.

1. When you start out, don't sleep together right away--invest your emotions in each other and find your compatibility in your personalities and character outside of the bedroom first
2. Apologize for the little things, it can go a long way for the other person
3. Be humble enough to apologize, even if you may be right
4. Don't be the one that always has the answers and never any questions
5. It's a two way street, so share the decision making and ditch the "my way or the highway" mentality, because no, you're not always right
6. Know when you're wrong and admit it to the other person
7. Ask deeper questions to discover who they were, who they are, and want to become. Realize that there are things that you won't want to hear
9. Be patient and forgive each other and then stop counting
10. Do your best to not compare yourself to previous relationships; there's a reason why it didn't work out and why they're with you instead.
11. Know the difference of needing to trying harder and when you're trying too hard. Know when it's over.
12. Don't spend all of your time alone, make time for friends and family
13. Take the time to re-discover yourself as an individual when you start morphing into one person together
14. Accept change in the other person and realize that you might have to change, too
15. Spend time apart so you have the chance to miss each other
16. Don't compromise your morals and standards--some will change over time, some will not
17. Make sacrifices for each other, even if it means putting off things that you want to do
18. Go on adventures together
19. Encourage and build each other up
20. Love each other fiercely and indefinitely

But what do I know, anyway?


Until then, bless my restless bones and wandering feet